Do you resonate with the above quote? Co-dependent relationships can develop within the family dynamic, and sometimes friendship groups, due to a number of unique reasons/circumstances. For example, often in the world of substance abuse and its related problems and consequences, family and friends of those in this cycle often become so absorbed in the sufferer’s problems that they, often over time, don’t have the energy to notice and identify their own needs and problems. Essentially this compulsion to control and be responsible for their loved ones choices in their abusive cycle, is often driven from the hurt and pain that comes from loving someone who is in trouble. This experience can be profoundly agonising.
We at SBCP offer therapy to clients who may have become co-dependent over time in their endeavours to support those they love who may be locked into a cycle of substance abuse. Co-dependent persons can inadvertently become part of the problem in this cycle. We work with our clients to determine their own understanding of ‘what is their responsibility’ in contrast to ‘what is the responsibility of their loved one’. Thus allowing for the natural subsequent consequences of the choices each make.
We also endeavour to draw our client back into remembering their own dreams, values and beliefs in a way that they become comfortable and committed with setting healthy boundaries to support their own set of self-responsibilities. This can then allow a return of energy and time to live their own life.
This process is a difficult transitional journey. We offer ongoing support to those that recognise they wish to effect changes in their life.